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The art of quitting what isn't working anymore

The art of quitting what isn't working anymore

Week 22: The Brilliance Experiment

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Anna Seirian
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Two words I’m actively eliminating from my personal lexicon are “trying” and “thinking about.”

As in, “I’m trying to figure out what’s next,” and “I’m thinking about doing x, y , and z.”

When you’re standing at the base of your next mountain, you can’t afford to be wishy-washy about what you’re doing.

As great as it feels to sit on the fence for a million years and weigh all the possibilities, I’m learning that my fulfillment in this life is contingent on how quickly I can make decisions about what is and isn’t working for me.

Lately my life has felt hosting a tea party in a plastic kiddie house in the back yard. My knees are pressed up against the walls and my elbows are poking out the windows. My back hurts from bending in ways that don’t allow me to grow.

Staying where I am is taking more energy than simply surrendering what isn’t working for me anymore.

“Simply surrendering”… a nice idea for someone without all these control issues…!!!!

Surrender is terrifying. It’s a spacious nothingness that I rush to fill with my fears and anxieties instead of my hopes and dreams. What if it doesn’t work? What if it gets worse?

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