This is brilliant. Niche in the market. Save the dating app users a decade of distress by creating a platform with no photos/height/job titles shown until at least X number of life areas overlap. (Seriously though, this idea is going to stick with me and I'm going to consider my relationships from this model. Thanks for sharing.)
I'm excited for you to dive more into loneliness, friendship and community. I've been thinking about that for the past year or so, and how as an adult .. especially an entrepreneur, how lonely it is and how it is harder (imo) to make friends when your business is primarily online.
It seems this is a very common thing. been asking around a lot about whether people feel like they have strong IRL connections and it makes me feel less alone to hear how lonely people are
I totally agree that we cannot put pressure on our friends to be everythinggg for us! Some friends are good for one thing, some friends for other things, and the older I've gotten and the deeper my relationships with my friends have gotten, the better I've gotten at knowing which friend to go to for what.
I love this! This, funnily enough, reminds me of the overlap in two ideas I've been hearing more about lately: how you can't expect one person (a partner, a friend) to be your everything AND how if you want to make new friends, you need to have an "about" (this is my friend I snowboard and travel with, this friend is my movies-and-happy-hour-on-a-Tuesday friend, etc). The overlap is there! It just may not always take shape in the way you expected.
Yes! I think we get so used to the “everything” friends we have in our younger years when there is so much more commonality in life stage, but it diversifies so much as we get older that it helps to know you have people for different types of things instead of perpetually looking for more everything people
I like it. I’ve been looking for a way to clarify how I relate to others, but most descriptions and ideas around friendship/acquaintanceship are quite dichotomous. I always thought in that traditional way as well. Either you’re hot or cold. No room for ambivalence, sometimes on, sometimes off. But I’ve learned about life since then. It’s hard to place this venn theory into the context of marriage, or famial love. But it really works in terms of platonic, external-to-family relationships. I realise I really do love the ones I love, but I don’t need to be in their world all the time, or them in mine. But some people I can exist with almost 24 hrs a day, 7 days a week, in almost total harmony. Not many people, mind you! And some people I can really only do a small dose of, because with them, the depth of intense, intimate conversation, the connection is so powerful, it would swallow me to be around them too much. So time is not the same as quality, that’s for sure. There are obviously a lot of variables to be considered. But good work!
super interesting! for me, the venn diagram particularly has helped with complicated family relationships and helped me heal a lot in my partnership expectations.
This is brilliant. Niche in the market. Save the dating app users a decade of distress by creating a platform with no photos/height/job titles shown until at least X number of life areas overlap. (Seriously though, this idea is going to stick with me and I'm going to consider my relationships from this model. Thanks for sharing.)
haha! idk if I'd advocate for full diagrammage on dating apps, but i really helped my invest my energy better in my current relationship!
Love it! I guess the idea is out in the ether for someone else to use. :)
I'm excited for you to dive more into loneliness, friendship and community. I've been thinking about that for the past year or so, and how as an adult .. especially an entrepreneur, how lonely it is and how it is harder (imo) to make friends when your business is primarily online.
It seems this is a very common thing. been asking around a lot about whether people feel like they have strong IRL connections and it makes me feel less alone to hear how lonely people are
I totally agree that we cannot put pressure on our friends to be everythinggg for us! Some friends are good for one thing, some friends for other things, and the older I've gotten and the deeper my relationships with my friends have gotten, the better I've gotten at knowing which friend to go to for what.
wooof yes, knowing who is in what friendship bucket will save tons of heartache!
Whatcha call your dooogg then?
I love this! This, funnily enough, reminds me of the overlap in two ideas I've been hearing more about lately: how you can't expect one person (a partner, a friend) to be your everything AND how if you want to make new friends, you need to have an "about" (this is my friend I snowboard and travel with, this friend is my movies-and-happy-hour-on-a-Tuesday friend, etc). The overlap is there! It just may not always take shape in the way you expected.
Yes! I think we get so used to the “everything” friends we have in our younger years when there is so much more commonality in life stage, but it diversifies so much as we get older that it helps to know you have people for different types of things instead of perpetually looking for more everything people
I like reading You. Sometimes having two opportunities is better than one. And I think that is implied from Venn diagrama. Best.
I like it. I’ve been looking for a way to clarify how I relate to others, but most descriptions and ideas around friendship/acquaintanceship are quite dichotomous. I always thought in that traditional way as well. Either you’re hot or cold. No room for ambivalence, sometimes on, sometimes off. But I’ve learned about life since then. It’s hard to place this venn theory into the context of marriage, or famial love. But it really works in terms of platonic, external-to-family relationships. I realise I really do love the ones I love, but I don’t need to be in their world all the time, or them in mine. But some people I can exist with almost 24 hrs a day, 7 days a week, in almost total harmony. Not many people, mind you! And some people I can really only do a small dose of, because with them, the depth of intense, intimate conversation, the connection is so powerful, it would swallow me to be around them too much. So time is not the same as quality, that’s for sure. There are obviously a lot of variables to be considered. But good work!
super interesting! for me, the venn diagram particularly has helped with complicated family relationships and helped me heal a lot in my partnership expectations.
My best friend and I were JUST talking about this last weekend!!!!